These might be the funniest 5 tips that will actually change your life.
… Or, not. Read on to find out. 🙂
I am lying in bed at 3:00 a.m. and am suuuuper hungry. The problem is, everything in my kitchen is: a) very far away & b) a lot of work.
Ugh. The stress of life. This gave me an idea. Instead of focusing on my own problems, why not grab a granola bar and just tell YOU what to do, with my top 5 obvious things we all should know.
(Besides, who doesn’t love being told what to do? — ugh, oh wait)
1. Don’t exit out of this blog post.
For all the obvious reasons, but, the main reason is that fact that these tips might actually change your life. I remind myself of them daily because the life I had three years ago was horrible. I was depressed, lost, angry and dead inside. It didn’t happen overnight, and I still have to work at it, but it is beyond worth it to start having the life of your dreams.
2. Stop complaining and start dating.
If I hear another person say that they can’t find someone to love — umm … Wait. Well, I’m not going to do anything. But you get it. Shut up! Stop looking at me.
Listen, we are in a world with billions of people. Open your eyes and notice all around you. Stop waiting to lose 10lbs, move out of Los Angeles, or get your house clean. Learning how to find a dating partner is about working through the negative garbage internally that is holding you back.
EVERYBODY needs love. When you are open to intimacy (BIG ONE) — and, I am not talking about hopping in the sack –, you will attract someone who is also open. But, if you keep doing what you’ve always done you will always get the same result.
3. Get the negative garbage out of the way.
Don’t like your job? Well, if you are negatively complaining about it everyday, it isn’t going to get any better!
Hardcore focus on WHAT YOU WANT not WHAT YOU DON’T WANT.
It’s actually common sense, it’s just a total shift in your lifestyle. Look, I get it. The struggle is real.
4. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
What the heck is she talking about? You thought that didn’t you?
Changing a lifestyle and your habits is hard, very effin hard. BUT, the payoff will blow your mind. I am speaking from real experience.
However, in order to get there, you have to get comfortable in the uncomfortable.
For example, if you have always dated abusive men (physical and/or emotional), allowed people to do whatever they want to your without any concern for your own feelings, avoided your feelings because you think it’s better to be positive …
It will be incredibly weird to have a guy open your door for you, consider your feelings and needs first (whoa, the selfishness! -note: sarcasm), feel your feelings and forgive so they pass.
It’s very weird. In fact, many people never change their lives because they are so afraid and uncomfortable.
That does not have to be you! What not be that too 5% of people who actually go after it? Who believe that they can create new habits? You can do it! I promise you, you are stronger that you think.
5. Stop talking crap to yourself.
Why do we all do this? “You’re ugly”, “You are going to fail.” “You are out of your league.” “He doesn’t care about you.” “You will never find love.”
This is the FIRST thing that has to go when you are struggling to love yourself. When you commit to changing your life, every part of you has to be aligned. You can’t rock the biggest job interview of your life if you are telling yourself “You suck.” the entire time.
Even if you don’t believe it at first — and, you probably won’t –. Even if you feel like a weirdo at first — and, you probably will –. Do it! If you say a postive affirmation about yourself over and over (300-500 times daily) for one month, you will look back and be SHOCKED. It works!
Okay, I’m out of good advice for now and I need to sleep. I love you bundles. Forgive the silliness … or don’t, that’s cool too.
Awkward Disclaimer: I am not a freaking doctor (this is not WebMD.com, I am just someone who came from a trailer park with a past of abuse and is now living a life I couldn’t have imagined. I work everyday to keep using the secret sauce I share above. But, it may not work for everyone. If you are going through abuse, depression, or deep pain, please go get professional help. They are amazing people out there who can help you. I got the help I needed, and am eternally grateful for the people who stepped in.
If you liked/hated/laughed at what I said, let me know. XO